So this is a different kind of post for Mother's Day. We know there are lots of moms out there who are just simply, well, awesome. They’re nurturing, warm, unconditionally loving, reassuring, empathetic, and so on. We love and appreciate them! But if that's not your mom, this post is for you.
We feel like some encouragement and recognition is also needed for the daughters with the tough moms – the mothers who have perpetually been anything from non-attentive to indifferent, cold, cruel, abusive, neglectful... It can be really lonely and painful to experience Mother's Day when everyone else seems to have the best mom, and you feel like you just don’t. We want you to know that you are on our hearts and minds today.
We don't know your story and can't begin to say that we understand your pain. But please know this – we believe in you, that you are truly loved and seen. We believe that you are precious and strong. We believe in your voice and that it should be heard. Know that whatever hurt you've endured, whatever bonds of guilt, manipulation, and power you've been under... we believe that, with the help of people you deeply trust and who will challenge you and keep you accountable to pursuing health and joy, it is possible to change the course of your life. Healing is a journey; it does not mean you sweep problems under the rug and pretend they never happened – healing means confronting the problems in a healthy way, making good changes, and finding peace within. It’s a hard road to trek, but aren't we all in this together?
If there is one thing we encourage you to take away from this, it is:
Life without bondage is possible.
We hope you can feel peace today, and forgiveness for yourself if you struggle with guilt over these feelings. We all carry wounds with us. We want to encourage you to open yourself and share those with a friend or mentor – chances are you might find a lot of love and wisdom in return. And even though it might be the hardest thing you ever do, tell your mom you love her. She might need to hear it, too. Have courage, show grace, and be free.
You are loved.